Sexual Health; 50 Best Men’s Health Sex Tips

We mined hundreds of Men’s Health articles about sex and relationships to find the all-time best tips we’ve ever given about meeting women, wooing them, and being the best lover they’ve ever had. You can thank us later.

And for the ultimate guide to becoming a master lover—complete with step-by-step instructions on how to give her an orgasm—

• Sex isn’t a race, so take time to explore her. Focus on her thighs and lower belly. Make a mental circle 2 inches around the outside of her vagina and don’t cross the line while you kiss, lick, and caress. The slower you go, the longer you last. That’s the secret of How to Have Sex for an Hour.

• If you want morning sex, set your alarm at least 20 minutes early. A woman won’t want sex if she’s hurried, and she’ll probably need about 20 minutes to reach orgasm.

• She’ll live longer and more enthusiastic oral sex if you give her a verbal response. Even appreciative grunts are better than silence.

• When you’re all the way inside her, add side-to-side movement or up-and-down pelvic pressure against her clitoris to vary the stimulation.

• Both you and your lady write five sexual fantasies down on five separate notebook cards. Then head to a restaurant where you can get a booth and some privacy in a public setting. Over dinner and wine, pull out the cards and make three piles—”yes,” “maybe someday,” and “not on your life.” Put the possibles in a shoe box, and once a month pull out a winner.

• Ask her to kiss your earlobe with the same pressure she prefers during oral, then cop her style next time you’re south of the border.

• Think of it as fat-burning foreplay. It will raise her dopamine levels, easing her anxieties. Bonus: Your post-run sweat has androstadienone, a testosterone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.

• The best compliments are the ones that involve multiple senses. “You have beautiful breasts” is nice. “You have beautiful breasts—they feel so soft and warm in my hands” is that much more intimate.

• If a woman who knows you’re spoken for comes on to you, it’s flattering. It’s tempting. But remember that she’s doing it to feed her own ego, not yours. She wants to see how much power she holds over you. And if you take her bait, she then knows she must be superior in every way to your sweetie. Deep down, she has nothing but contempt for both your male weakness? and your mate’s existence. That should really piss you off.

• Use your thumb to press on her G-spot, as if you were making a thumbprint on her vaginal wall. You’re shooting for the area about 2 inches inside the vaginal opening, on the front side. (Want to know more about her mysterious pleasure organ?

• When kissing, don’t use your tongue like a dart (in and out, in and out). Instead, try varying motions and amounts of pressure.

• Doggy-style tip: For over-the-top stimulation of her most nerve-packed parts, keep thrusting short and shallow, rather than deep and fast.

• Words she loves to hear: “I want to make you feel good.”

• Looking for The One? Don’t abandon your spoken-for friends. A guy with a wife or live-in girlfriend has an expanded social circle—meaning he knows more women (that he could potentially introduce you to) than he did when he was single.

• The nerve-packed clitoris actually extends several inches under the skin on either side of her vagina (like a wishbone), which means you can massage it without direct pressure to the bud. Trace the extensions with flat, wide, extra-wet tongue strokes or slow finger zigzags. (Don’t forget the lube.) Then rub a slow spiral around the top, drawing closer with each pass. The combo of anticipation and indirect contact will bring her pleasure centers to life.

• Write her a letter—one that does not involve a laser printer or an e-mail address. Write what you feel, but the ruling sentiment should be one of gratitude and confidence in your future together. Then mail it to her.

• To increase clitoral contact when she’s on top, make a V with two fingers, and place it so the point of the V (just between the two knuckles) is directly over her clitoris. Your fingers should come down on either side of your penis as she rides you. This will stimulate the clitoris, inner labia, and urethra—as well as add intensity for you. If you need more help in the oral department,

• A beautiful woman gave you her number; use it within 48 hours. Otherwise, you’ll look scared—or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games.

• If you get her voicemail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately loud. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.

• During foreplay, agree that the genitals are off-limits. Touch the other parts of her body, using fingers, a feather, a silk scarf, or anything that turns her on, and ask her to describe how it feels. This builds the tension until you’re both ready to explode.

• Want to know if she likes to talk dirty? Tell her, “You make me think dirty thoughts.” Ease in slowly. It’s best to test the waters a bit, rather than immediately go for your deepest, kinkiest dirty talk right off the bat.

• Compliment her at least 5 times a day. It’ll make her feel special, appreciated, and closer to you. And the more connected she feels, the more sexually inspired she’ll feel.

• If you don’t have a cologne that she likes, shop for one with her. It’s a form of foreplay.

• Holding hands can work as an aphrodisiac. It shows her you’re devoted and proud to tell the world.

• Assume the Cuban Plunge sex position: As you assume the man-on-top position, ask her to bring her knees to her chest and drape her legs over your shoulders. Her vagina will be elongated and extended, and your penetration will be deeper and more pleasurable for her, which qualifies as a win-win situation.

• Compliment her in front of your friends.

• The next time you kiss her, don’t try to steal second. Just kiss. Men use kissing primarily as a means to an end—to advance sexual relations. Yet women mainly use kissing as a way to monitor the status of the relationship, and especially a partner’s commitment level.

• One of the biggest reasons women can’t relax during sex is body image. Keep the lights low. A candle? Perfect.

• “Passion” means being in the moment and not being distracted. Sex is a conversation, and she doesn’t want to feel like you wish you had your iPhone.

• Lie on a blanket in a park, with people all around, and whisper fantasies to one another, sparing no detail. You’ll create sexual tension—but with safety, as there’s no possibility of sex then and there.

• Use anticipation as an aphrodisiac. Instead of tearing her clothes off, take your time. Tell her what you want to do with each section of exposed skin.

• Words she loves to hear: “It’s OK to go slow.” Say it and mean it.

• On a dinner date, always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her rather than straight on. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the first seat to her left. Turn toward her from the waist, which will give her the opportunity to turn toward you.

• When you and your girlfriend disagree, never agree to disagree. Agreeing to disagree shuts down the communication process and resolves nothing. And the less comfortable she feels communicating, the less confident she’ll feel about the relationship.
• In fact, fighting isn’t just good for your relationship—it’s good for your health.

• Ask her to demonstrate what she considers a sexy kiss. Then let her do all the work. It’s educational…and fun.

• Don’t be afraid to mix things up in bed. Sexual novelty re-creates those early-relationship, take-me-now hormones.

• Fund an erotic shopping spree. Write out a gift certificate with an expiration date that coincides with your evening at a hotel. If she prefers to shop alone, let her—either way, you’ll find out what interests her.

• Join a volunteer group. Selflessness is sexy—and research has shown that women consider altruism more important than men do. To show your selfless stuff,

• Start sex outside the bedroom. The same old place leads to the same old patterns. So explore some new erogenous areas: The kitchen. The bathroom. Quebec City. Your bodies will be in new places, making it unlikely that you’ll follow old routines.

• Feed her chocolate: It’ll load her up with phenylethylamine, a neurotransmitter that activates the brain’s pleasure center, and caffeine, which can jolt her sex drive.

• Take an overnight train with your girlfriend or wife. There’s the excitement of traveling in a novel way. And there’s your sleeping compartment. It’s a new place—and it moves, which adds a new dynamic to sex. And it’s somewhat public: There’s the excitement when you’re in flagrante delicto as the train stops, and people are outside your window.

• Here’s a new place to have sex: on the washer. Your washing machine produces more vibration than any other appliance in the home. When your butt’s on the lid, the motion is transmitted through your penis, essentially turning your member into a life-size vibrator.

• Another new place to have sex: in a beanbag chair. You can contour it to any shape, and it’ll support you in unaccustomed ways. Doggy-style sex works great when she’s on her belly, draped over the amorphous blob (that’s the chair, not you).

• New Place to Have Sex III: a national park. If the missus likes to vocalize, pitch your tent in Alaska’s Denali National Park, where 6 million untamed acres and a crowd-thinning permit system leave little risk of waking the neighbors. She’ll gasp in delight when the midnight sun bathes the Big One (that’s Mt. McKinley, buddy) in salmon pink light.

• New Place to Have Sex IV: the elevator. Try a freight elevator. It won’t have an alarm, and you can stop it between floors for more privacy.

• Relive the past. Take her to the garage and reclaim a space you long ago ceded: Seduce her in the backseat of the car. It feels a little public, it’s steeped in testosterone, and there’s a throwback, high-school quality to it.

• Sexual experimentation is earned, not inherited. It requires time, tact, and trust: 66 percent of the women we surveyed said they’re most willing to experiment later in a relationship.

• Clitoral contact in particular feels abrasive without a proper warmup. If a woman yips or inhales suddenly when you go there—instead of purring or moaning—you’ve jumped the gun.

• Try The Fusion: You both sit up and she faces you, sitting on your lap so she can lift her legs onto your shoulders. This increases the muscular tension that advances the orgasm sequence. By elevating her butt off the bed, it’ll be easier for her to thrust and grind in circles.

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